Byebye 2013. Hello, 2014!

I don't usually make new year resolutions because I never follow them through.

This year, due to my new status as a momma, as well as a series of (rather unfortunate) events that occurred, I decided to make a couple of new year resolutions and make sure I work on it.

But before that, let's review and reflect on 2013.

The Good

1) I came out of that deep, deep hole I dug in 2012 just before I quit. (Could have been depression!)

2)  We did more 'couple things' in 2013. Like whipping up a rather decent Chinese New Year meal.

3) We got our wish granted - a new addition to our family, our sweet Lil' J.

The Bad

Due to the series of unfortunate events, I became more cautious with who I trust (that leaves just a couple of people. If you, my friend received the link of this blog from me, you are in the circle of trust.).

I don't trust people that easily anymore because you never know when they will give you a stab on the back, or say things that are completely untrue and of no basis.

The Ugly

Well, the ugly was, and is still very ugly. 

I was, and still am very much disturbed by it.

I won't go into the details and hopefully, when I look back at this post a year later, I won't remember what this is all about. When that happens, it means that I've already learnt to let things go.

But a couple of things I've learnt from this turn out to be my new year resolutions. (Because I was on the receiving end and that really, for the lack of a better word, sucks.)

For 2014...
 

#1: Do not jump to conclusions. Do not be too quick to judge.

Don't be so quick to judge and make a fool out of yourself.
Get the facts right first.
And do not assume, it makes an "ass out of u and me".
And the worst of them all... do not conjure up some scenario in your head and act as if that really happened - it's rather stupid.

I hope I haven't done any of these. If I have, then I got to change.

 

#2: Think before you act. Or speak. Or respond.

Really. 

Like what it says.

Think before you speak.

Is it really ok to say that? Have you conveyed the message correctly to the intended recipient?

Think of the consequences before you respond.
 Especially if you want to text. Texting gives you time to review and think through the words you say.
Are you really going to send the text in the way you have drafted it? Will there be any undesirable consequences?

Don't react on the spur of anger. It gives people the impression that nothing processes through your brains. And it's sad, especially if you are so highly educated.

I'm hoping that I have not been doing any of the above too.. Responding before thinking. At least I know I review my texts before sending them.

#3: Be a good momma and teach Lil' J well.

Not in the academics aspect. 

But more of character and upbringing. I think having a good character is so much more important than having excellent grades. Of course, it'll be nice to have both. 

I'm not even sure if I can do this well. But I'll try. 

So there you go.

My three resolutions for 2014.

May it be a better year.